（154）怎样才是一个正真的一个人? 而且还是个君子... What is a real man? And is a gentleman

（154）怎样才是一个正真的一个人? 而且还是个君子...
What is a real man? And is a gentleman ...

人有五常, 人的灵性所必修最基本的五常 -------- 仁•礼•智•义•信
Human beings have 5 constant virtues, the most basic 5 constant virtues of human spirituality which should be cultivated with benevolence, propriety, wisdom, righteous and trust.

如果一个人只有人的躯体没有了这五常，就会做出残虐没人性的行为。
If a person only posses a human body without these 5 constant virtues, will do something of tyrannical inhuman behavior.

所谓:不如畜生，就是说当一个人的行为变得残忍无人性时，做动物都不配! 为什么呢?
The so-called: Worse Than A Brute, that means when a person's behavior becomes cruel and inhuman, even do not deserve to be an animal ! And why?

因为，有些动物至少有坚守一常，如:-
Because, some animals at least stick to a regular virtue, such as:-

乌鸦 - 会孝敬照顾老乌鸦。
Crow - will honor and care for the Old Crow.

羊儿 - 会感恩跪地吸母奶。当知道母亲要被斩杀时也会为母亲跪地流泪。
Goat / Sheep - will be grateful to kneel on their mother's milk. They will tear for their mother when they know that their mother will be slaughtered.

狗狗 - 会对主人坚守"忠心"
Canines - keep "Royalty" to their master.

蚂蚁 - 勤劳
Ants - Diligent

企鹅 - 坚守"亲情"
Penguin - stick to "family / kinship love".

鸿雁 - 坚守"团队的精神"
Geese - stick to "Team Spirit"'.( please refer to Geese Theory in YouTube.)

无论人有多大的本领或多高的知识，没有了这五常就不算是一个正真的人了，内心就会逐渐被邪恶侵蚀。
No matter how much people have the ability or advance knowledge, as a human being without posses the 5 constant virtues can not be considered as a real man, the heart will be eroded by evil gradually.

当多聪明的人类发明了有独立思考的机械人只会带来后患无穷的灾难，因为机械人是不可能会有这五常------仁•礼•智•义•信。
When the intelligent human being has invented  the smart robot with independent thinking will only bring endless disaster, because the smart robot is impossible to have such 5 constant virtues------benevolence, propriety, wisdom, righteous and trust.

仁 : 仁爱，对家人相亲相爱，对外人有慈爱，对动物有爱心。还有孝 : 孝顺父母和孝敬长辈。
所谓:孝悌仁恕 -------孝，指对父母还报的爱；悌，指兄弟姊妹的友爱。
Benevolence: Compassion Love, not only love to your family but also love to others, and treat the animals with a loving heart,  and be filial piety to parents and respect elders.

The so-called: Filial Piety & Fraternity-----

Filial piety, refers to repay love to the parents ;
Fraternal, refers to the fraternity love between brothers and sisters .

礼 : 对人和事都要懂得以礼相待。夫妻之间相敬如宾, 父母和孩子之间的礼仪，晚辈和长辈之间的礼仪等等。。。
Propriety Courtesy: Be respectful to people and things. Be always respect to each other between husband and wife, the etiquette between parents and children, the manners between the young and elders and so on.

对事 : 不是征服别人, 而是征服自己内心的弱点。坚持礼仪和礼貌的原则。培养努力的精神。使心灵拥有更完美的耐心。
Treat Matters : Not to conquer others but to conquer the weaknesses within oneself. Uphold the principles of propriety and courtesy. Cultivate the spirit of effort. Perfect a mind of patience.

智 : 心不会被迷惑，做事明智，是非黑白分明。如果把聪明用在错误的地方就是愚痴。做错了就要懂得自我改善。
Wisdom: Mind will not be confused / indused, do things wisely, distinguish right and wrong. Use wisdom in the wrong place is foolishness. Know to get improvement from your own false.

义 : 不会因为个人的利益去做招损他人的事。做事不马虎，有责任心，有担当，不会见死不救。（当然要救人也要顾及自己的安全，但不代表见死不救。）
情侣或夫妻不会因某些诱惑而背弃了爱你的一方。
Righteousness: Do not do harm things to others because of your personal interests. Do not do things carelessly, have a sense of responsibility, shoulder with responsibility, will not do nothing to save life (Of course, to save people also have to take into account of your own safety, but does not mean to do nothing.) Couples or husband and wife should not be tempted by some temptations to betray someone who love in you.

信 : 对人要有信用，不信口开河。
Trust : Should have trust to people, do not talk recklessly.

除此之外，人还要学习更多的善知识，才不会让这个世界被邪恶力量侵蚀。
In addition, people should have to learn more virtuous knowledge, so will not let this world to be eroded by the evil force.

人的五常和善知识更应该从小就要栽培。
People's 5 constant virtues and the virtuous knowledge should be cultivated from an early age.

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不如畜生 : Worse Than A Brute
孝悌仁恕 : Filial Piety & Fraternity
见死不救 : do nothing to save life
信口开河 : Talk recklessly

https://youtu.be/JG9FVbH-km0

（153） 如何选择才幸福? How to choose will be happiness ?

（153）
如何选择才幸福?
How to choose will be happiness ?

好的缘分是可遇不可求，不是说你有钱就能掌握拥有的姻缘。但是，没有"面包"的爱情也很难维持幸福的日子。因此，一般人都会为自己设下了选择配偶的条件。当遇到的配偶有你所设定的条件时，你们真的会幸福吗? 答案是-------不一定!
Good fate can not be demanded, it is not because you are rich of money can be able to master it. But, it will be very difficult to maintain day of happiness with no "bread"for your love. Therefore, most people will set some conditions for their spouse selection. When you have met a spouse who comes with the conditions of what you have set, are you really happy? The answer is: Not Necessarily !

如果你已经是有钱有地位又何必要找有钱有地位的配偶?
If you are already rich and in a high status, why should you also want to find a rich and high position spouse?

如果你已经拥有高学历又何必也要找同样高学历的配偶?
If you already have an advanced degree of education level, why do you also want to find a spouse with the same high education level?

(当然一个有受教育和没受教育的人长期在一起是很难会幸福，因为两人思想的"距离"相差甚远。
Of course, it's hard to be happy in long term with someone who is educated and uneducated, because the "gap" between both minds are very far distance.）

其实选择幸福是在于"人心" !
"人心"影响了"人性"，"人性"影响了你的幸福人生!
In fact, the choice of happiness lies in the "heart"!
"Human heart" affects "humanity" and "humanity" affects your happy life!

选择的主要条件应该是:
The main conditions of choice should be:

***心地善良而不是心机太重的人; 心机重的人很容易妒忌和疑心重。真正心地善良的人会让你过得安心，心机重的人会让你过得不安。
* * * the person is kind-hearted but not scheming; those scheming people are easily jealous and suspicious. Real kind-hearted people will make you feel at ease, the scheming people will make you feel anxiety.

***心胸宽广的人。因为与这样的人相处会比较舒服，没压力，不记仇或记恨, 生活遇到困难有商量。心胸宽广的人，肚量大，不会因为你的失言而记在心里。
***Broad-minded people. It would be more comfortable to get along with such kind of people, no pressure, do not hold a grudge, when met difficulties in life is able to have mutual discussion. Broad-minded man is magnanimous, and would not keep in mind as you have made a slip of tongue.

***道德价值观也很重要。夫妻本来就是互补长短，而不是斗本事。夫妻的价值观相近，比较容易得到协调，沟通/交流才不会有隔阂。这就是为什么有些不同宗族结婚后还能白头偕老。
***Moral Value Concepts are also very important. Couples are meant to complement each other, not to fight for capability. If the value concept of the husband and wife is similar, it is more easily coordinated, the communication will not have estrangement. That's why some different races of couples can grow old together after they get married.

***懂得珍惜和尊重你的人。夫妻互相懂得尊敬, 很自然就会得到珍惜。如果只有单方付出和尊重，会很累，生活在一起也没有意义。
***People who know how to cherish and respect you. The husband and wife know to respect each other, so it will naturally be cherished. If only one-sided pay for and respect, it will be very tired, living together also has no meaning.

懂得互相尊重就会互相珍惜，得到了珍惜自然就会互相感恩。
Know to respect each other will gain mutual cherishment, once get the treasure of cherishment, naturally will be grateful to each other.

***真正懂得关心你的人。懂得真正关心你的人是不会嫌弃或背弃你，更不会处处与你斤斤计较。会嫌弃你的人不是真心爱你的人，总有一天会背弃离开你。当遇到这样的人时就别再留恋了，把珍贵的时间留给真正关心你的人。
***People who really know to care about you. The person who really care about you will not abandon or betray you,  even would  not to the point of hanggle over every ounce. The person who will abandon you is not the person who truly loves you. One day, he/she will betray to leave you. When you meet someone like this, don't linger and leave your precious time to those who really care about you.

***信任你的人。夫妻不能互相信任又怎能相处融洽细水长流? 夫妻之间的信任可以让一个家庭变得更加强大。
***the person who trusts on you. How can couples get along when they can't trust each other? Trust between husband and wife can make a family become stronger.

要记得，幸福才能更强大哦！
Remember, happiness can be more powerful !

幸福的婚姻不是商场上的买卖，当结为夫妻后就是家人的一分子，如果你的家人做得不够好，难道你会赶你的家人走或离开他吗？
Happy marriage is not a business in the market. Once already married, the husband and wife is a member of the family. If your family does not do well enough, will you drive your family member to go or leave him/her?

当然爱情在婚后还有许多需要学习的地方，但不是单方面的。
Of course, love in a marriage still has many aspects to learn after marriage, but not unilaterally.

(152) : 宽恕是给真心忏悔的人。 Forgiveness is released to the people with sincere repentance.

(152) :
宽恕是给真心忏悔的人。
Forgiveness is released to the people with sincere repentance.

当某个人或某些人曾经讽刺侮辱或深深伤害了你，要宽恕或原谅他们也要看他们是否是真心诚意忏悔地道歉。因为，我们的宽恕和原谅是站在真心慈爱的出发点，而不是理所当然地被当着"傻瓜" 。
When someone or some people have ever deeply ironic insult or hurt you, want to forgive them should depend on whether they apologize with sincere repentance or not. This is because our forgiveness / pardon is released from a standing point of true mercy love rather than being taken for granted as a "fool".

真心的忏悔是心灵的救赎，所以只有真心诚意忏悔道歉的人才配拥有这高尚的心灵清净。
Sincere repentance is the salvation of the soul, only to repent and apology sincerely will deserve to have this noble soul with peace.

（在此不是叫你要记仇或报仇那些曾经伤害你的人，这样你自己也不能过得幸福，心灵得不到清净。这里是指如果那些曾经伤害你的人来向你道歉时，你要看清楚他们是否是真心诚意的道歉忏悔，这样你的宽恕给得才有意义。）
(Here is not asking you to hold a grudge or revenge to someone who has hurt you, so you can not live in happiness, the mind can not get peace. Here means that if someone who has hurt you to apologize to you, you have to see clearly whether they apology with sincere repentance or not. If yes, the forgiveness is given with meaningful.)

救赎 salvation
清净 clean / get peace
宽恕 forgiveness
原谅 pardon
道歉 apology
记仇 to hold a grudge
报仇 revenge
拥有 to have / posses
理所当然 being taken for granted
真心 sincere (heart)

(151) : 情绪显现了你内在的能力。 Emotions will show your inherent ability.

(151) :
情绪显现了你内在的能力。
Emotions will show your inherent ability.

能幹的人，不在情緒上計較，只在做事上認真；無能的人，不在做事上認真，只在情緒上計較。
Capable people won't bother on emotional dispute but will only focus in doing things seriously. Incompetent people do not work seriously but only focus on the emotional dispute.

本事大的人不会看低本事小的人，本事小的人却会为了达到了小目标而自以为很了不起。
A man of great skill does not look down at low ability people, but,  A low capable man will be arrogant as he  has achieved a small goal.

骄傲的人潜能发挥有限，谦虚的人有无限的潜能发挥。
Arrogant people have limited potential elaboration, and humble people will have unlimited potential to elaborate.

本事和能力增加，修养也要随着成长，而不是脾气/情绪长大!
Skill and ability increase, self-cultivation should also grow with but not the temper / emotion grow up!

情绪就是我们情商里的垃圾，需要接受改变调整去开拓自己的世界，才能走出情绪的阴霾!
Emotion is our emotional quotient of garbage, need to accept changes and adjustment to open up your own world so that you can get out of the haze of emotion !

(150) 眼高手低 have grandiose aims but puny abilities

这年头万事瞬息即变，很多人逆水不行舟，早就退了十几里地。能力不升反降，脾气不降反升，你给他重担你怕压死他，你给他轻活他看不上眼!~~~这就是眼高手低！
All these days, one moment changed everything instantly, many people are not boats sailing against the current, move early tens of miles backwards. Ability is falling instead of rising but temper is rising, not falling, you give him a crushing burden you will fear him/her to be stressful, you give him/her light work but can't attract him/her! ~~~ This is the meaning of having grandiose aims but puny abilities.

许多人都会/曾经进入了这样的误区却不自知，空有大的抱负却没有检讨自己的真本事/能力是否与抱负相称与否!
Many people would/have entered such misunderstandings but are not aware, had plenty of ambitious but not belong to their ability/capacity whether it commensurates with their ambitions or not !

成语Idioms
眼高手低
have grandiose aims but puny abilities

( 149 ) 祝所有的亲朋好友 ： “中秋节快乐Happy Mid - Autumn Festival “。

祝所有的亲朋好友 ： “中秋节快乐Happy Mid - Autumn Festival “。

很感恩有位朋友给我这么
很棒的一段话：

一群人走到一起不容易，
有的强势，
有的随和，
有厉害的，
有温顺的，
有计较的，
有大度的，

其实，就好像土豆跟西红柿，本来不是一个世界的，但却走在了一起，因为土豆变成了薯条，西红柿变成了番茄酱，而成了绝配。

友情亦是如此，没有天生合适做朋友的人，需要的是，彼此包容，理解，改变。风风雨雨的磨合中，改变着不合适的彼此！

走到一起，就是有缘人！感恩所有我生命中出现的朋友！

祝大家:
中秋节快乐!
身体健康!
全家幸福！
💟💟💟💟

I wish all friends and family: "Happy Mid-Autumn Festival".

Is Thanksgiving to a friend by sending me with her rod of words:

A group of people could come together with is not easy,
some are strong,
some are easy-going,
some are terrible,
some are meek,
some are  quibble of,
some are generous of,

Actually, it seems potatoes with tomatoes, was not in a world of, but they could  come  together with, because  potatoes have become French fries,   tomatoes have become tomato sauce, and thus, they did their friendship.

There is no perfect person to be born for friends, but need mutual tolerance, understanding and change. Ups and downs in the run-in by changing  inappropriate manner of each other!

'Come together', is a nice ring to it!

Thanksgiving all friends appear in all my life !

I wish you all:
Happy Moon Festival!
Good health!
The whole family is living with happiness! 💟💟💟💟

(148 )谚语 Proverb: 圣人千虑，必有一失；愚人千虑，必有一得。 Saints have one thousand of consideration, there must be a loss ; fool people have one thousand of consideration, there must be a gain into account .

谚语 Proverb:

圣人千虑，必有一失；愚人千虑，必有一得。
Saints have one thousand of consideration, there must be a loss ; fool people have one thousand of consideration, there must be a gain into account .

朝代Dynasty：先秦 Qin Dynasty
出处Source：<<晏子春秋•内篇杂下>>

相关熟语 ：千虑一得 、千虑一失。
Relevant idiomatic phrase:  a thousand of considerations may have a gain, a thousand of consideration may have a loss.

语译 Interpretation ：

圣人在上千次的考虑中，必定会有一次失误 ；愚笨的人在上千次的考虑中，必定会有一次是可取的。
Saints must have a mistake/loss in a thousand of consideration; Fool people must have a gain in a thousand of considerations.

劝告 Advice ：

人们应该要谦虚，不可自以为是，尤其是在成功后更要有肚量去听听来自不同层次人们的意见，然后再做全面的衡量，这样才不会做出错误的决定。
People should be humble, not self-righteous, especially after the success shall be more magnanimous to listen to the views of people from different levels, and then do a comprehensive measure, so as not to make the wrong decision. 

比如 example：
虽然职位低微但也可以分享对公司的看法。
Although position level is low but can also share views on the company.