（154）怎样才是一个正真的一个人? 而且还是个君子... What is a real man? And is a gentleman

（154）怎样才是一个正真的一个人? 而且还是个君子...
What is a real man? And is a gentleman ...

人有五常, 人的灵性所必修最基本的五常 -------- 仁•礼•智•义•信
Human beings have 5 constant virtues, the most basic 5 constant virtues of human spirituality which should be cultivated with benevolence, propriety, wisdom, righteous and trust.

如果一个人只有人的躯体没有了这五常，就会做出残虐没人性的行为。
If a person only posses a human body without these 5 constant virtues, will do something of tyrannical inhuman behavior.

所谓:不如畜生，就是说当一个人的行为变得残忍无人性时，做动物都不配! 为什么呢?
The so-called: Worse Than A Brute, that means when a person's behavior becomes cruel and inhuman, even do not deserve to be an animal ! And why?

因为，有些动物至少有坚守一常，如:-
Because, some animals at least stick to a regular virtue, such as:-

乌鸦 - 会孝敬照顾老乌鸦。
Crow - will honor and care for the Old Crow.

羊儿 - 会感恩跪地吸母奶。当知道母亲要被斩杀时也会为母亲跪地流泪。
Goat / Sheep - will be grateful to kneel on their mother's milk. They will tear for their mother when they know that their mother will be slaughtered.

狗狗 - 会对主人坚守"忠心"
Canines - keep "Royalty" to their master.

蚂蚁 - 勤劳
Ants - Diligent

企鹅 - 坚守"亲情"
Penguin - stick to "family / kinship love".

鸿雁 - 坚守"团队的精神"
Geese - stick to "Team Spirit"'.( please refer to Geese Theory in YouTube.)

无论人有多大的本领或多高的知识，没有了这五常就不算是一个正真的人了，内心就会逐渐被邪恶侵蚀。
No matter how much people have the ability or advance knowledge, as a human being without posses the 5 constant virtues can not be considered as a real man, the heart will be eroded by evil gradually.

当多聪明的人类发明了有独立思考的机械人只会带来后患无穷的灾难，因为机械人是不可能会有这五常------仁•礼•智•义•信。
When the intelligent human being has invented  the smart robot with independent thinking will only bring endless disaster, because the smart robot is impossible to have such 5 constant virtues------benevolence, propriety, wisdom, righteous and trust.

仁 : 仁爱，对家人相亲相爱，对外人有慈爱，对动物有爱心。还有孝 : 孝顺父母和孝敬长辈。
所谓:孝悌仁恕 -------孝，指对父母还报的爱；悌，指兄弟姊妹的友爱。
Benevolence: Compassion Love, not only love to your family but also love to others, and treat the animals with a loving heart,  and be filial piety to parents and respect elders.

The so-called: Filial Piety & Fraternity-----

Filial piety, refers to repay love to the parents ;
Fraternal, refers to the fraternity love between brothers and sisters .

礼 : 对人和事都要懂得以礼相待。夫妻之间相敬如宾, 父母和孩子之间的礼仪，晚辈和长辈之间的礼仪等等。。。
Propriety Courtesy: Be respectful to people and things. Be always respect to each other between husband and wife, the etiquette between parents and children, the manners between the young and elders and so on.

对事 : 不是征服别人, 而是征服自己内心的弱点。坚持礼仪和礼貌的原则。培养努力的精神。使心灵拥有更完美的耐心。
Treat Matters : Not to conquer others but to conquer the weaknesses within oneself. Uphold the principles of propriety and courtesy. Cultivate the spirit of effort. Perfect a mind of patience.

智 : 心不会被迷惑，做事明智，是非黑白分明。如果把聪明用在错误的地方就是愚痴。做错了就要懂得自我改善。
Wisdom: Mind will not be confused / indused, do things wisely, distinguish right and wrong. Use wisdom in the wrong place is foolishness. Know to get improvement from your own false.

义 : 不会因为个人的利益去做招损他人的事。做事不马虎，有责任心，有担当，不会见死不救。（当然要救人也要顾及自己的安全，但不代表见死不救。）
情侣或夫妻不会因某些诱惑而背弃了爱你的一方。
Righteousness: Do not do harm things to others because of your personal interests. Do not do things carelessly, have a sense of responsibility, shoulder with responsibility, will not do nothing to save life (Of course, to save people also have to take into account of your own safety, but does not mean to do nothing.) Couples or husband and wife should not be tempted by some temptations to betray someone who love in you.

信 : 对人要有信用，不信口开河。
Trust : Should have trust to people, do not talk recklessly.

除此之外，人还要学习更多的善知识，才不会让这个世界被邪恶力量侵蚀。
In addition, people should have to learn more virtuous knowledge, so will not let this world to be eroded by the evil force.

人的五常和善知识更应该从小就要栽培。
People's 5 constant virtues and the virtuous knowledge should be cultivated from an early age.

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不如畜生 : Worse Than A Brute
孝悌仁恕 : Filial Piety & Fraternity
见死不救 : do nothing to save life
信口开河 : Talk recklessly

https://youtu.be/JG9FVbH-km0

（153） 如何选择才幸福? How to choose will be happiness ?

（153）
如何选择才幸福?
How to choose will be happiness ?

好的缘分是可遇不可求，不是说你有钱就能掌握拥有的姻缘。但是，没有"面包"的爱情也很难维持幸福的日子。因此，一般人都会为自己设下了选择配偶的条件。当遇到的配偶有你所设定的条件时，你们真的会幸福吗? 答案是-------不一定!
Good fate can not be demanded, it is not because you are rich of money can be able to master it. But, it will be very difficult to maintain day of happiness with no "bread"for your love. Therefore, most people will set some conditions for their spouse selection. When you have met a spouse who comes with the conditions of what you have set, are you really happy? The answer is: Not Necessarily !

如果你已经是有钱有地位又何必要找有钱有地位的配偶?
If you are already rich and in a high status, why should you also want to find a rich and high position spouse?

如果你已经拥有高学历又何必也要找同样高学历的配偶?
If you already have an advanced degree of education level, why do you also want to find a spouse with the same high education level?

(当然一个有受教育和没受教育的人长期在一起是很难会幸福，因为两人思想的"距离"相差甚远。
Of course, it's hard to be happy in long term with someone who is educated and uneducated, because the "gap" between both minds are very far distance.）

其实选择幸福是在于"人心" !
"人心"影响了"人性"，"人性"影响了你的幸福人生!
In fact, the choice of happiness lies in the "heart"!
"Human heart" affects "humanity" and "humanity" affects your happy life!

选择的主要条件应该是:
The main conditions of choice should be:

***心地善良而不是心机太重的人; 心机重的人很容易妒忌和疑心重。真正心地善良的人会让你过得安心，心机重的人会让你过得不安。
* * * the person is kind-hearted but not scheming; those scheming people are easily jealous and suspicious. Real kind-hearted people will make you feel at ease, the scheming people will make you feel anxiety.

***心胸宽广的人。因为与这样的人相处会比较舒服，没压力，不记仇或记恨, 生活遇到困难有商量。心胸宽广的人，肚量大，不会因为你的失言而记在心里。
***Broad-minded people. It would be more comfortable to get along with such kind of people, no pressure, do not hold a grudge, when met difficulties in life is able to have mutual discussion. Broad-minded man is magnanimous, and would not keep in mind as you have made a slip of tongue.

***道德价值观也很重要。夫妻本来就是互补长短，而不是斗本事。夫妻的价值观相近，比较容易得到协调，沟通/交流才不会有隔阂。这就是为什么有些不同宗族结婚后还能白头偕老。
***Moral Value Concepts are also very important. Couples are meant to complement each other, not to fight for capability. If the value concept of the husband and wife is similar, it is more easily coordinated, the communication will not have estrangement. That's why some different races of couples can grow old together after they get married.

***懂得珍惜和尊重你的人。夫妻互相懂得尊敬, 很自然就会得到珍惜。如果只有单方付出和尊重，会很累，生活在一起也没有意义。
***People who know how to cherish and respect you. The husband and wife know to respect each other, so it will naturally be cherished. If only one-sided pay for and respect, it will be very tired, living together also has no meaning.

懂得互相尊重就会互相珍惜，得到了珍惜自然就会互相感恩。
Know to respect each other will gain mutual cherishment, once get the treasure of cherishment, naturally will be grateful to each other.

***真正懂得关心你的人。懂得真正关心你的人是不会嫌弃或背弃你，更不会处处与你斤斤计较。会嫌弃你的人不是真心爱你的人，总有一天会背弃离开你。当遇到这样的人时就别再留恋了，把珍贵的时间留给真正关心你的人。
***People who really know to care about you. The person who really care about you will not abandon or betray you,  even would  not to the point of hanggle over every ounce. The person who will abandon you is not the person who truly loves you. One day, he/she will betray to leave you. When you meet someone like this, don't linger and leave your precious time to those who really care about you.

***信任你的人。夫妻不能互相信任又怎能相处融洽细水长流? 夫妻之间的信任可以让一个家庭变得更加强大。
***the person who trusts on you. How can couples get along when they can't trust each other? Trust between husband and wife can make a family become stronger.

要记得，幸福才能更强大哦！
Remember, happiness can be more powerful !

幸福的婚姻不是商场上的买卖，当结为夫妻后就是家人的一分子，如果你的家人做得不够好，难道你会赶你的家人走或离开他吗？
Happy marriage is not a business in the market. Once already married, the husband and wife is a member of the family. If your family does not do well enough, will you drive your family member to go or leave him/her?

当然爱情在婚后还有许多需要学习的地方，但不是单方面的。
Of course, love in a marriage still has many aspects to learn after marriage, but not unilaterally.

(152) : 宽恕是给真心忏悔的人。 Forgiveness is released to the people with sincere repentance.

(152) :
宽恕是给真心忏悔的人。
Forgiveness is released to the people with sincere repentance.

当某个人或某些人曾经讽刺侮辱或深深伤害了你，要宽恕或原谅他们也要看他们是否是真心诚意忏悔地道歉。因为，我们的宽恕和原谅是站在真心慈爱的出发点，而不是理所当然地被当着"傻瓜" 。
When someone or some people have ever deeply ironic insult or hurt you, want to forgive them should depend on whether they apologize with sincere repentance or not. This is because our forgiveness / pardon is released from a standing point of true mercy love rather than being taken for granted as a "fool".

真心的忏悔是心灵的救赎，所以只有真心诚意忏悔道歉的人才配拥有这高尚的心灵清净。
Sincere repentance is the salvation of the soul, only to repent and apology sincerely will deserve to have this noble soul with peace.

（在此不是叫你要记仇或报仇那些曾经伤害你的人，这样你自己也不能过得幸福，心灵得不到清净。这里是指如果那些曾经伤害你的人来向你道歉时，你要看清楚他们是否是真心诚意的道歉忏悔，这样你的宽恕给得才有意义。）
(Here is not asking you to hold a grudge or revenge to someone who has hurt you, so you can not live in happiness, the mind can not get peace. Here means that if someone who has hurt you to apologize to you, you have to see clearly whether they apology with sincere repentance or not. If yes, the forgiveness is given with meaningful.)

救赎 salvation
清净 clean / get peace
宽恕 forgiveness
原谅 pardon
道歉 apology
记仇 to hold a grudge
报仇 revenge
拥有 to have / posses
理所当然 being taken for granted
真心 sincere (heart)

(151) : 情绪显现了你内在的能力。 Emotions will show your inherent ability.

(151) :
情绪显现了你内在的能力。
Emotions will show your inherent ability.

能幹的人，不在情緒上計較，只在做事上認真；無能的人，不在做事上認真，只在情緒上計較。
Capable people won't bother on emotional dispute but will only focus in doing things seriously. Incompetent people do not work seriously but only focus on the emotional dispute.

本事大的人不会看低本事小的人，本事小的人却会为了达到了小目标而自以为很了不起。
A man of great skill does not look down at low ability people, but,  A low capable man will be arrogant as he  has achieved a small goal.

骄傲的人潜能发挥有限，谦虚的人有无限的潜能发挥。
Arrogant people have limited potential elaboration, and humble people will have unlimited potential to elaborate.

本事和能力增加，修养也要随着成长，而不是脾气/情绪长大!
Skill and ability increase, self-cultivation should also grow with but not the temper / emotion grow up!

情绪就是我们情商里的垃圾，需要接受改变调整去开拓自己的世界，才能走出情绪的阴霾!
Emotion is our emotional quotient of garbage, need to accept changes and adjustment to open up your own world so that you can get out of the haze of emotion !

(150) 眼高手低 have grandiose aims but puny abilities

这年头万事瞬息即变，很多人逆水不行舟，早就退了十几里地。能力不升反降，脾气不降反升，你给他重担你怕压死他，你给他轻活他看不上眼!~~~这就是眼高手低！
All these days, one moment changed everything instantly, many people are not boats sailing against the current, move early tens of miles backwards. Ability is falling instead of rising but temper is rising, not falling, you give him a crushing burden you will fear him/her to be stressful, you give him/her light work but can't attract him/her! ~~~ This is the meaning of having grandiose aims but puny abilities.

许多人都会/曾经进入了这样的误区却不自知，空有大的抱负却没有检讨自己的真本事/能力是否与抱负相称与否!
Many people would/have entered such misunderstandings but are not aware, had plenty of ambitious but not belong to their ability/capacity whether it commensurates with their ambitions or not !

成语Idioms
眼高手低
have grandiose aims but puny abilities

( 149 ) 祝所有的亲朋好友 ： “中秋节快乐Happy Mid - Autumn Festival “。

祝所有的亲朋好友 ： “中秋节快乐Happy Mid - Autumn Festival “。

很感恩有位朋友给我这么
很棒的一段话：

一群人走到一起不容易，
有的强势，
有的随和，
有厉害的，
有温顺的，
有计较的，
有大度的，

其实，就好像土豆跟西红柿，本来不是一个世界的，但却走在了一起，因为土豆变成了薯条，西红柿变成了番茄酱，而成了绝配。

友情亦是如此，没有天生合适做朋友的人，需要的是，彼此包容，理解，改变。风风雨雨的磨合中，改变着不合适的彼此！

走到一起，就是有缘人！感恩所有我生命中出现的朋友！

祝大家:
中秋节快乐!
身体健康!
全家幸福！
💟💟💟💟

I wish all friends and family: "Happy Mid-Autumn Festival".

Is Thanksgiving to a friend by sending me with her rod of words:

A group of people could come together with is not easy,
some are strong,
some are easy-going,
some are terrible,
some are meek,
some are  quibble of,
some are generous of,

Actually, it seems potatoes with tomatoes, was not in a world of, but they could  come  together with, because  potatoes have become French fries,   tomatoes have become tomato sauce, and thus, they did their friendship.

There is no perfect person to be born for friends, but need mutual tolerance, understanding and change. Ups and downs in the run-in by changing  inappropriate manner of each other!

'Come together', is a nice ring to it!

Thanksgiving all friends appear in all my life !

I wish you all:
Happy Moon Festival!
Good health!
The whole family is living with happiness! 💟💟💟💟

(148 )谚语 Proverb: 圣人千虑，必有一失；愚人千虑，必有一得。 Saints have one thousand of consideration, there must be a loss ; fool people have one thousand of consideration, there must be a gain into account .

谚语 Proverb:

圣人千虑，必有一失；愚人千虑，必有一得。
Saints have one thousand of consideration, there must be a loss ; fool people have one thousand of consideration, there must be a gain into account .

朝代Dynasty：先秦 Qin Dynasty
出处Source：<<晏子春秋•内篇杂下>>

相关熟语 ：千虑一得 、千虑一失。
Relevant idiomatic phrase:  a thousand of considerations may have a gain, a thousand of consideration may have a loss.

语译 Interpretation ：

圣人在上千次的考虑中，必定会有一次失误 ；愚笨的人在上千次的考虑中，必定会有一次是可取的。
Saints must have a mistake/loss in a thousand of consideration; Fool people must have a gain in a thousand of considerations.

劝告 Advice ：

人们应该要谦虚，不可自以为是，尤其是在成功后更要有肚量去听听来自不同层次人们的意见，然后再做全面的衡量，这样才不会做出错误的决定。
People should be humble, not self-righteous, especially after the success shall be more magnanimous to listen to the views of people from different levels, and then do a comprehensive measure, so as not to make the wrong decision. 

比如 example：
虽然职位低微但也可以分享对公司的看法。
Although position level is low but can also share views on the company.

（147）谚语 proverb: 酒逢知己千杯少 话不投机半句多。 For a congenial friend a thousand toasts are too few; in a disagreeable conversation one word more is too many.

谚语 proverb:

酒逢知己千杯少 话不投机半句多。
For a congenial friend a thousand toasts are too few; in a disagreeable conversation one word more is too many.

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有些人，跟他讲话，就像计时炸弹；
Some people, you spoke to him/her, like a time bomb ;

有些人，跟他聊天，就是那么的自在快乐，东南西北的话题都可以聊 ！
Some people , chat with him/her, that is so comfortable and happy, any topic can be talked !

当一个人不尊重你时，就不必多说，因为跟他聊什么都是没有意义的 ！
When a person does not respect you, you do not have to say anything because everything talked to him/her is meaningless !

•东南西北 ：east, south, west, north 

东南西北的话题：here means any topic can be chatting topic.

（146）人嘛，要过得较轻松和快乐就别总是挤在一个不属于自己的世界里，这样才不会不知不觉迷失了自己! Well people, wanna live to be more relaxed and happy just don't always squeeze in a world not his/her own , so as not to unwittingly lost oneself!

人嘛，要过得较轻松和快乐就别总是挤在一个不属于自己的世界里，这样才不会不知不觉迷失了自己!
Well people, wanna live to be more relaxed and happy just don't always squeeze in a world not his/her own , so as not to unwittingly lost oneself!

可以用钱解决的问题，就不是问题；
The problem can be resolved by money is not a problem;

可以用钱买到的快乐虽是一种快乐，但却不是真真的快乐 ！
The pleasant can be bought by money although is a type of happy but it is not the true happiness!

（145）您知道从鬼门关逃出生天的那一刻是什么滋味吗 ？ Do you know what's the feeling that escape from a door of hell ?

您知道从鬼门关逃出生天的那一刻是什么滋味吗 ？
Do you know what's the feeling that escape from a door of hell ?

几年前，我就是曾经有过这么的一场经历 ！
Few years ago, I just have had such an experience of it !

有许多人活着的时候会买了许多价值高的保险，但是这些东西对我来说一点都不重要了，尤其是生命面临结束的那一刻 ！
There are many people will buy a number of high-value insurance for their lives, but all these things are not important to me anymore, especially at that moment facing the end of life !

其实在生命遇到紧急求救的那一刻，根本不会再去想到什么保险或财务，在那一刻我只会想到生命是多么的宝贵，我是孩子们的生命，我希望天能给我机会活过来去做更多有意义的事。。。。。。非常感恩我真的活过来了 ！(我的佛救了我回来。 ）
In fact, at the moment of life in emergency to get help , won't think of what kind of insurance or financial anymore, at that moment I just think of how precious life is , I'm the life of  my children, I hope God will give me the opportunity to live up again to do more meaningful things . . .very grateful that I could live up again!
(My Buddha saved my life back. )

当生命还好时，真的要好好把握您的每一天，珍惜您自己和身边每个人的生命。。。别再尔虞我诈了 ！
When life is still good there, really want to cherish your every day, cherish your own life and the people around you... don't intrigue anymore!

当任何身边的人有危险时，我们应舍身去救，因为要看到身边的人都好好活着。。。要看到他们的生命还存在！
When any of the people around us is  in danger, we should save his/her life , because want to see the people around are alive and to live well . . .want to see their lives still alive!



（144 ）修身养心 Self - Cultivating Body and Heart

修身养心 Self  - Cultivating Body and Heart

修身养心，练体练性；
Self-cultivating body and heart, take care of body and spirit well;
不能无欲，但要无私，
Can not be without desire at all, but should be selfless;
命在性中，才在德中，
Life lives in spirit, competence should  live in moral virtues;
净化心灵，身心同健。 
Purification of the mind to meet the physical and mental health together .

不要烦，莫要恼，烦恼多易衰老；
人间事物难得全，计较得失添烦恼。
Do not want annoyance , don't want to vex, the more annoyance the more easy to aging ;
Human things are rare to be perfection, fuss about gains and losses will add trouble.

烦恼往往都是来自人们自己心中的杂念，尤其在感情上：
Annoyance / worry always is from human  mind's distracting thoughts , especially emotionally:

某些人的心里（尤其是年纪轻轻的时候）比较容易产生 ：
妒忌、恨、妄想 、爱慕虚荣导致感情破裂；
In some people's mind (especially when young age) is relatively easy to produce:
Jealousy, hatred, delusion, vanity causes emotional breakdown;

也有一些男士到了中年时，却有了贪念于忘年之恋，而导致家庭破碎；
（要知道忘年之恋，比如男比女的相差十多年或二十多年的年龄, 无论吃喝玩乐、衣食住行、生理需求 、朋友和社交圈子都有很大的差距。。。到了最后还是留着许多苦恼。。。  ）
There are some men in the middle age, but the greed to fell in love with young lady, and lead to broken families;
( Should know that the love of such as male older than the female is more than 10+ years or 20 years of age, basic necessities of life, regardless of the physiological needs, idle away in seeking pleasure, friends and social circles are have a big different gap...  In the end there is still keeping a lot of trouble....)

也有的男士在烦恼希望娶一位“旺夫相“的妻子，要知道有智慧，有才干，有定力的男子汉又怎么需要靠什么“旺夫相“的妻子呢 ！能娶到一位善良又顾家，真心爱自己丈夫的妻子已是男人最大的福报了！
Some men are annoying in hopes to marry a wife who has  "flourishing appearance ", should know that a man who has wisdom, competency and composure character don't need to rely on what's the "flourishing appearance " of a wife ! Could marry with a wife who is goodness and take care of family, true love to his own husband,  this already brings great blessings to the man!

要知道夫妻同心，家运才会更兴旺 ！
Should know that husband and wife to work hard together, a home will become more prosperity!

人活在这个世界里本来就有许多烦恼，只要把心中的杂念去除，心灵得到了洁净，身体自然得到了松懈，这样才能达到身心休养的境界。。。。。
People live in this world originally have a lot of troubles, as long as to get rid of distraction mind, our spirit of soul will be clean, the body naturally will get relax, so that to achieve the realm of physical and mental recuperation.....

•性 ：本性 nature of spirit (性 here do not mean sexual )

（143）您们知道海洋生物，由其是鲸鱼对海洋生态的平衡是多么重要吗 ？ Do you know the marine life, especially the whale is so important to the marine ecological balance ?

您们知道海洋生物，由其是鲸鱼对海洋生态的平衡是多么重要吗 ？
Do you know the marine life, especially the  whale is so important to the marine ecological balance ?

您们看了这个就会知道环保的重要性 ！
You are reading this will know the importance of environmental protection !

如果每个人都注重环保，就不会发生这样的事，地球的生态也不会受到破坏，天灾也不会一年比一年严重 ！
If everyone pay attention to environmental protection (recycling items ) , it will not happen such thing, the Earth's ecology will not be destroyed , the natural disasters will not become progressively more severe year by year !

地球不可能只属于人类，地球的生态需要地球的智者（人类）来爱护 ！
The earth cannot only belong to  human, the earth's ecological needs the earth's wiser (human) to love it !

我希望每个人都能成为地球的智者 ！
I hope everyone can be the earth's wiser! 

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（142）努力不成功，但是有其存在的价值。 Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value

努力不成功，但是有其存在的价值。

Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value

~Albert Einstein ~

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未曾失败的人，恐怕也未曾成功过。
Who never fails , afraid that he/she has never succeeded.
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谚语 proverb :

失败是成功之母。
Failure is the mother of success. 

（141）怀疑 Suspect / doubt

怀疑 Suspect / doubt

有时候，当你怀疑别人的行为时，其实她/他的行为会比你更圣洁。
Sometimes, when you suspect someone else's behavior, actually her/his behavior is holier than you.

要怀疑一个对自己没有伤害又真诚的人，就等于是自己伤害了人，自己如此的行为又怎样会圣洁呢 ？
Wanna suspect a person who has no harm and with sincerity towards our self, this is equivalent to hurt the one, how can my such act be holy?

很多时候人们会产生怀疑都是为了要保护自己的利益，但是这对善良和真诚的人是一钟伤害，也会成为自己的一种罪恶感。
Doubt is often to be aroused due to people want to protect their own interests but it is a kind of hurt to the people who is kindness and sincere, this will also become a kind of guilty to our self.

“怀疑“很自然会令你说出伤害人的话和做出种种伤害人的事。
" Suspicion " is naturally will make you saying out the words to hurt people and to do anything to hurt people.

长期生活在如此怀疑或被怀疑的境遇中，心又怎么能得到平静呢 ？
Long time to live in such a circumstance of doubt or being suspected, how can our heart have a peace?

人们要维护的应该是自己圣洁的心灵，心灵才能心安理得而得个平静。
People should be to maintain their own Holy Spirit to have a peace of mind. 

( 140 ) 心中阔达, Broader in Heart

心中阔达，自然心中可以容下别人不能所容的事物，可以有别人所没有的机会；可以有别人所没有的快乐 ！
Broader in Heart,  naturally heart can allow a room for others' things that others can't allow, there can have the opportunities that others do not have ; there can have the happiness that others may not have !

心中不能阔达，很自然地对某些人、某些事物都会产生偏见，机会到了眼前也会溜走，您永远都无法看到另一片成就自己帮助别人的世界！
The heart cannot be widen, it is naturally for some people, some things will be prejudiced, opportunity will slip away even it comes to the front, you can never see another piece of world that accomplish yourself while helping others !

{ 这里指心中容纳的不是邪恶的事物。 Here is not a room in the heart for evil things. }

( 139 ) 【汉字中的哲理 Philosophy in Chinese characters 】

【汉字中的哲理  Philosophy in Chinese characters 】

【忙 busy】心亡则忙，心亡易忘，
无论多累，都记得让心休息；
Heart death is due to busy, when the heart die will have lots of things to be easily forgotten, no matter how tired, remember to let the heart to take rest ;

心 heart + 亡 death = 忙 busy

【骗 cheat】一旦被人看穿，“ 马” 上就会给人看“扁”；
Once the deceptive conducts were seen through by people, it will let people immediately looking down at those deceptive conducts;

马 immediate + 扁 look down = 骗 cheat

马 : horse but here indicates 马上 :immediate
扁 : flat but here indicates 看扁 : look down

【值 value】人站得“直” 行得正，才能体现活人的价“值”；
Man stands " straight" and do right, to reflect the price "value" of the living people ;

人 man + 直straight = 值 value

【舒comfort】“舍”得给“予”他人，生活才能舒心；
"Willing" to " give " others, life can be pleasant ;

舍 willing to + 予 give = 舒 comfort

舍：home but here indicates 舍得 : willing to.
予 : give
舒心 : heart feels comfortable means pleasant;

【起 up】起点虽底，但不放弃不抛弃，自“己”就能“走”出自己的路。
Although the beginning is low, but never giving up and never abandoned, since the " self " will be able to " walk " out of his/her way.

己 : 自己 self
走 : walk

走 walk + 己 self = 起 up



(138) 名句 famous phase : “ 用人不疑，疑人不用” Use people do not suspect, suspected people do not use

名句 famous phase : “ 用人不疑，疑人不用”
拼音 pronunciation：yòng rén bù yí，yí rén bù yòng

Choose to use a man, should not suspect him while a suspected man should not be used.

意思 Meaning：
对信不过的人不能任用；对被启用的人，则要充分信任，大胆使用，不必怀疑会干坏事或错事。
For untrusted man cannot be appointed; for those appointed people should be fully trusted, bold use of them, no doubt will do something bad or wrong.

当你信任的人做错了，他/她会顿悟反省再改善。
When someone you trust to do wrong, he/she will reflect more insight to improve.
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自古以来，“用人不疑，疑人不用”作为华人使用人才的一个原则，也是中国官方和企业等领导层用人的标准。
Since ancient times, " employer do not suspect a man used by him, when the man is suspected, the man cannot be used " as a principle of Chinese talent to employ people, but this is also the standard of employing people by Chinese officials and business leaders.

因为不疑，所以放心，所以可以做出好成绩，所以事业可以延续发展得更好。
Because of no doubt, so rest assured, can make good achievements, so business can continue to develop better.

凡是人才都希望自己被信任。信任，可以给人信心和力量，使人才无所顾忌地发挥自己的才能。信任，还能让上下齐心克服困难。
Any man with talent likes to be trusted. Trust can give people confidence and power to make people stop at nothing to reach their potentials. The trust also allows top and bottom united to overcome the difficulties.

不信任是信心的一种打击，疑心重重只会让人感觉不安心，不是用人所长。在古代战争时代，讯息联系沟通都很困难，所以“用人不疑” 的确派上用场。如果对冲锋陷阵的将士心生疑窦，是很难齐心协力、克敌制胜的。因为这是一种很自然的心态，你不信任人，人又怎能放心去信任你呢 ？
Mistrust is a blow of confidence, suspicions will only make people feel uneasy/worry. This is not the strength of employing personnel. In the ancient war era, contact information and communication are very difficult, so " employing no doubt " is really useful on that occasion. If causing suspicion to the soldiers in striking to make a frontal attack, it is very difficult to unite and defeat / conquer the enemy. Because this is a very natural state of mind, you don't trust people, how can the people trust to you ?

美国通用电气CEO韦尔奇的经营最高原则是：“管理得少”就是“管理得好”。这是管理的辩证法，也是管理的一种最理想境界，更是一种依托企业谋略、企业文化而建立的经营管理平台。
US Top General Electric CEO Jack Welch's operating principle is : " Managing less " is " Good Management". This is the dialectics of management, and also such management is one of the most ideal realm, but it is also a relying on corporate strategy, corporate culture to build a management platform.

如果用人多疑，“上不信下，下不信上，上下离心，以致于失败”。由于有时情况不明，可能产生的流言蜚语，特别是误听忌能者的诬陷进谗，以至于误伤人才，毁掉事业者，这样的案例从古到今举不胜举。
If an employer is suspicious, " the top does not trust the bottom, the bottom does not trust the top, the top and bottom become centrifugation, that will cause failures" . Because sometimes the status is unclear, perhaps rumors may arise, especially listen to the slanders framed by the jealous that  hurt people without intention, those careers/enterprises were destroyed since ancient times are numerous to the list.

【成语 idioms 】:
诬陷进谗 framed into slanders
举不胜举 numerous to the list
流言蜚语 rumors
齐心协力 make concerted/united efforts
克敌制胜 defeat / conquer enemies
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孔子与其弟子——颜回的故事 :
The Story of Confucius and his disciple, Yan Hui :

在某次孔子周游列国的时候，情况很凄惨，经常饿着肚子。有一次有七天没有吃东西了，实在走不动了，孔子就在路边躺下休息，命颜回去讨点吃的东西。颜回到附近人家好不容易讨得几碗白米，赶紧生火煮饭。
Confucius was at his one time trip, the situation is miserable, often on an empty stomach. One of seven days without eating, he couldn't go on walking, Confucius lie down on the road side, called Yan Hui going to get something to eat. Yan Hui finally got few bowls of white rice from the people in vicinity,  then he made a fire to cook hurriedly.

再说孔子已是年迈之人，腹中饥饿难忍。人在旅途感觉好辛苦，不自不觉进入了梦乡。当他醒来时，他却看见正在煮饭的颜回，被青烟呛的直是咳嗽，又一看，颜回把手伸到铁锅内，顺手抓了一把米饭放在嘴里吃了起来。
Confucius is an old man, abdominal hunger in heartbreak. On the trip, it was so hard,  unconsciously he fell asleep. When he woke up, he saw Yan Hui cooking while coughing was caused by smoke inhalation, and looked, Yan Hui put his hand in a wok to pick up a handful of rice into his mouth to eat.

孔子寻思，颜回是个老实人，也是个知书达理之人，不会这样偷着先吃东西啊！又一想，这世道不好，人心叵测，尤其是在这患难之时更是难说呀？
Confucius thought deeply, Yan Hui is an honest man and an educated person, not having to steal  something to eat first ! On second thought, this is wicked world, man's heart is unpredictable,  especially when those are in the affliction is hard to say that ?

孔子把颜回叫到跟前说：“刚才我在梦中梦见我的父亲，心中甚是不悦，我要用些干净的米饭祭典他老人家，你去准备吧！”
Confucius asked Yan Hui coming to his front, saying : " I dreamed my father in a dream just now, feeling in the heart is very uncomfortable, I need some fresh rice to worship him, you get to prepare it ! ”

颜回这下急了：“不行，刚才做饭的时候，有些烟灰掉在饭里面，弃之可惜，我就把他抓起来吃了，现在这饭已经不干净了，不能用来祭典了呀！”
Yan Hui was anxious and said : " No, in cooking just now, there were some ash on the rice, regrettable to throw it, , I had eaten it, and now the rice is not clean, and cannot be used for ritual ! ”

孔子听颜回之言后，心中一怔，这才搞清楚了事情的原委，险些冤枉了颜回，才明白方才自己的判断是错误的，看来这信任是不容易做到的。
When Confucius heard the word of Yan Hui said, heart was startled, this was to figure out what happened, almost misunderstood Yan Hui, to understand that just his own judgment was wrong, it seems that trust is not easy to do.

但圣人就是圣人，能马上顿悟。孔子曰："这人心的判断有时也是靠不住的，在这世上怀疑是每个人的天性啊 !"
But the Saint is saint, can have an epiphany/awareness immediately. Confucius said : "The heart of judgment is sometimes unreliable, suspected to be in this world is everyone's nature !"

后来，孔子要将今天的件事情总结提醒后人。于是他把随行的弟子全叫到跟前，万般感慨并郑重其事地说：
After that, Confucius wanted to make a  summary of today's things for reminding later generations. So he called all his disciples to the front, with full of feeling and solemnly said :

“人所相信的是自己的眼睛，但眼睛看见也不一定就是判断正确的。人所依靠的是自己心里的判断，而自己有时心里的判断也是靠不住的，想要做到实事求是是多么的不容易啊！”
" People believe their own eyes, but the eyes see may not be right. People who rely on their own judgment in the heart, but sometimes such judgment would be deceptive too, wanna seek truth from the facts is not easy ! ”

颜回赶紧记录下孔子的原话：“所信者目也，而目犹不可信；所恃者心也，而心犹不足恃。弟子记之，知人固不易矣！”
Yan Hui quickly recorded the exact words of what Confucius said : " Those who believe eyes but eyes are still not credible ; The judgement from the heart, the heart is not enough can be relied on. Disciples have remembered that to know a person is not easy !"

可见即使是孔子之圣，面对颜回这样的贤人，也不能做到：“用人不疑，疑人不用”！ 但是圣人就是圣人，能马上顿悟自己的错误 。
Can see that even is the Saint of Confucius to face with Yan Hui, such a sage, is also can't make it : " use people do not suspect, suspect people do not use" ! But the saint is saint, can immediately realize his mistakes.
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我个人认为:
在现今的世界里，要去信任一个人的确需要明智之举，以免误信不该信的人或误伤信任我们的人。
Personally, I think :
In today's world, we need to trust a person really needs to be smart to avoid believing untrusted people or hurt the people who trust on us.

然而，我们在这个世界上需要团队合作开发更多更好的发展，在队伍里也需要协调一致的努力不能没有信任！
However, we need team work to develop more better development in this world and also need concerted efforts in a team can't without trust !

(137) 只要在对的事情上，去做就对了 ！ Just on the right thing, go to do it, it is right !

题目 Title :
只要在对的事情上，去做就对了 ！ Just on the right thing, go to do it, it is right !

这只黄金猎犬看到有个孩子溺水时，毫不犹豫就跳入水里救人了 ！它的精神是不是很棒啊 ？
When this golden retriever saw a child drowning, it did not hesitate to jump into the water to save life ! Its spirit isn't that great ?

在它的世界里并没有受任何宗教教育…… 但它的慈爱精神并不输给人类 ！在对的事情，它做对了 ……
In its world where it has no subject to any religious education ……but its spirit of kindness does not lost to a mankind ! On the right thing, it has done right ……

反而现今有许多人误用了自己的同情心，失去了“慈爱的精神”和“大爱的精神” ！许多年轻人因为贪念，把自己的怜悯心断送给了恶棍，还断送了许多人的生命 ！
But today, many people misuse of their compassion, lost "Mercy Spirit" and the "Spirit of Great Love" ! Many young people because of greedy mind, his / her compassion heart is given for the villain, but also has ruined the lives of many people !

请想一想 Please think of it :

如果您把怜悯心送给了恐怖分子，将会有什么样的世界 ？
If you give mercy heart to terrorists, there will be what kind of world ?

如果您把怜悯心送给大爱精神，世界又会有什么变化呢 ？
If you give mercy heart to the spirit of Great Love, what will the world change into ?

如果每个人都劈除宗教歧见，拥护大爱的精神，这世界肯定可以救助更多的人，世界才会向和平迈进 ！
If everyone is splitting apart from religious dissension and embracing the spirit of Great Love, this can certainly help to save more people in the world, will move towards peace in the world !

……只要在对的事情上，去做就对了 ！Just on the right thing, go to do it, it is right !

如果宣扬宗教会带来战争，这种宣扬还有什么人生意义呢 ？
If promoting the advancement of religion will bring war, such promoting has what the significant point ?

如果宣扬大爱的精神会带来和平，那我不会再迟疑了 ！
If you preach the spirit of Great Love to bring peace, then I won't hesitate !

狗狗救人的精神，您认为上帝没看见吗 ？
The spirit of dog rescuing people, you think God didn't see it ?

不同宗教信仰都说有他们心中的上帝，几千年来都是这么说，那么上帝肯定是存在着，但是有任何一个人能证明不是同一个上帝吗 ？
Different faiths of different religious always said that have their God, such saying has left for thousands of years, then God must be there, but is there any one who can prove that it wasn't the same God ?

难道人类就不能劈除讲宗教吗 ？……只留住爱和宣扬上帝要我们做到的“慈爱精神” 和“大爱精神”，难道对人类来说真的很难吗 ？
Can't humans split apart from preaching about religion ? …… just keep loving and preaching God wants us to do that the "Spirit of Mercy", the "Spirit of Great Love", is it really so hard for humans ?

无论如何，为世界和平付出点滴的努力，就是对的事啊 ！
In any case, pay a bit efforts for world peace, it is the right thing !

……只要在对的事情上，去做就对了 ！ Just on the right thing, go to do it, it is right !
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小小个人分享 little personal sharing :

我曾经去过几个地方都是宣扬各自的宗教。当然不同的宗教都会说他们才是最真最好的真理，时常摧促人们入教 ！但是，他们却忽略了宗教信仰里最重要的“大爱精神”，所以我离开了 ！因为，我知道以他们那样的方式去宣扬宗教，几百年后的世界还是会为了宗教冲突而战争的啊 ！
I've been to a few places which are preaching their religion. Of course, different religions will always say that they are all really the best truth，quicken people to proselytize their religion ! But, they overlook the most important religious beliefs " the Spirit of Great Love ", that's why I left ! Because I know in their way to promote the advancement of religion, hundreds of years later the world still going to religious conflicts and wars !

最后，我来到了一个地方，就是教导人们不求回报为"大爱精神"而付出的地方 ！这里的举办人虽然是佛教徒，但是这里并不是为了宗教而宣扬宗教或摧促人们入教，反而是宣扬的是“大爱的精神”……不分宗教的爱，我成为了他们的志工一分子 ！
I came to a place, is a place to teach people giving their "Spirit of Great Love" without expecting anything in return ! Although the organiser here is Buddhist,  here does not preach about religion because of religious beliefs or quicken people to proselytize the religion but preaching the "Spirit of Great Love" …… without differentiation of the religion love, I become a part of their volunteer !

这里不宣扬宗教，只宣扬“大爱精神” ！我很喜欢这里，因为我认为“好”又“正”的宗教精神是不需要摧促或强逼人们入教或枷锁人们的日常生活方式 ！……而是教导人们慈爱的精神、大爱的精神，还有个人的操守修养 ！
Here does not promoting the advancement of religion, just promoting the " Great Love Spirit " ! I like here so much because I think the " good " and " right " of the religion spirit is no need to quicken or force people to proselytize religion or shackle the way of people's daily life !

通过做志工就能把大爱精神培养了出来，也会让人有所顿悟改善个人的操守修养 ！
Through to work as a Volunteer can cultivate out the Great Love Spirit, it also makes people to have an epiphany/awareness to improve their conduct of individual accomplishment !

当一个人有所顿悟，他 / 她自然知道什么是正确的事 ！
When a person had an epiphany, he / she will know what is the right thing !

（136）信心和信任 Confidence and Trust

知道自己孩子们在成长过程中需要建立信心，又怎么忍心去伤害别人的信心。
Knowing oneself's children need to build up confidence along their growing process and how can a heart to hurt other's confidence.

孩子会失去信心是因为没有被信任的感觉，心里还是会受伤、会痛……
Children will lose confidence because there is no feeling of trust, the heart will still be hurt, pain ……


(135) 志工的大爱精神 The Great Love Spirit of A Volunteer

上个星期六是我上义工的第一堂课，想不到我就这样爱上做义工了 ！回到家的心境也真的不一样了！
I joined as a Volunteer last Saturday was my first lesson, I can't believe I just fell in love with such a volunteer job ! When back home, feeling seems really different !

也许某些人起初做义工时没有真正的爱，但是从做义工里学习到付出真正的爱，流的是真汗水，兑现所学习的真理，领悟大爱的精神 ！
For someone's volunteering, at first may not have true love, but from volunteering to learn to pay the real love, Sweat flows is true, keep to realize the truth have learned, grasp the spirit of Great Love to the World !

和平世界需要大爱精神，
大爱需要每个人的点滴努力 ！
Peace World needs Great Love Spirit,
Great Love needs everyone to put little effort !

如果您认为人们需要宗教的教育，可是我认为不同宗教界更需要大爱的精神让这世界更和平 ！
If you think that people need religious education, but I think among the different religion communities need more Great Love Spirit to make this world more in peace !

这比起因为我们的信念而互相残杀会更好 。
This is better than to kill each other because of our belief.